Your marriage might have failed, but that does not make you a failure…


Salaam mommas,

How y’all doing? Well and blessed I hope 😀

Often when a divorce happens, especially when children are involved, parents (mainly mothers) blame themselves for it. Why? If a marriage is not working and you did everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) you possible could to make it work with no luck, then why should you continue to suffer and live miserably? You shouldn’t! I didn’t! I walked away and learnt to move on!

Honestly, with me, it was quite the opposite. In a way, I kinda knew it was coming. It was an arranged marriage to begin with and we didn’t get along from day 1 of our marriage! The mistake I made was I stayed in a marriage I was not happy in for far too long due to family pressure and worrying as to how I would provide for my children financially. As the years kept on going by I realised doing what I was doing was only taking a toll on my health and wellbeing, so I made…what people were calling a “selfish” decision….and asked for divorce. I haven’t looked back ever since alhamdulillaah and I’m proud to say I’m living a happy and peaceful life with my children. Something I wasn’t able to achieve in my marriage. Don’t get me wrong, it ain’t easy raising 4 kids alone, but when you realise something is affecting your health and wellbeing, you have to learn to do what’s right for YOU! And not worry about family, finance…etc. There is a saying, trust God and He will show you a way to solve all your problems.

I remember reading this amazing article awhile back on advice for single mothers and thought of sharing it with y’all. It has honestly helped me prepare mentally on the journey I was about to take on. Hope it will be of some help to any single mothers or soon to be single mothers reading this.


“I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life. Yes, I got off benefits and wrote the first four Harry Potter books as a single mother, but nothing makes me prouder than what Jessica told me recently about the first five years of her life: “I never knew we were poor. I just remember being happy.” J.K. Rowling

Becoming a single mum following divorce is one of the most devastating life events to live through, and yet, it is not discussed much.  Anywhere.  Except perhaps amongst single Mums, like some dirty little shameful secret.  Around 20% of families with children less than 15 years of age are headed by a single parent, nearly 90% of those by mothers.  That’s one in five families.  In Australia, 24% of children in single parent households are living in poverty versus 7% in households with two parents.  Single mothers are more likely to experience mental health difficulties than partnered mothers. Children from single parent families are twice as likely to suffer mental health problems compared with children from two parent households. Stigmatisation of single mothers remains alive and well and this is compounded by financial stress.

Why as a society are we not talking about this more?  Why do we play the blame game and label single mothers with any number of horrible terms? In no particular order, single mothers are told; they are easy, they are slutty, they got pregnant with some random guy, they sponge off welfare and honest tax payers, they should work and stay home with their kids simultaneously, they should have tried harder to keep their marriages together, they are man haters but are not to be trusted around other women’s husbands, they take money they haven’t earned unfairly from their ex-husbands, they have troubled kids who are suffering without a man in the house, they are pitiful, they are incomplete, they party irresponsibly whenever their ex has the kids, they are unbalanced, they have something wrong with them as they couldn’t keep their marriage together, that some man shouldn’t be expected to pick up the pieces of their bad choices.  Whatever they do, it will never be as good as married Mums.  And it is their fault.  Be honest – have you had these thoughts about single Mums?  If you are a married mother with children, how would you feel if, all of a sudden, these labels were applied to you?

Read full article here

Until next time mommas, ma’salaama  and remember you are not alone. There are thousands of single mothers around the world dealing with and going through what you are dealing with or going through right now. Life happens, just breath through it and count your blessings! Peace y’all 😀


Learn to appreciate people before their absence forces you to…..


Salaam mommas and friends,

How y’all doing? Well and blessed I hope 😀

Have y’all ever come across or had people for whom you would travel all the way to the moon and back  only to be taken for granted come into your life? I have, plenty of them actually, and they would probably still be around today if I hadn’t learnt to love myself enough to throw them out of my life. I’m talking about those type of friends who are only your “friend” when life is going good for you and seem to disappear when it ain’t only to reappear out of the blue again when they see you back on your feet again. Do y’all understand where I’m coming from?

But these type of people don’t only come in the form of friends but husbands, partners…etc as well. For example, those husbands that continuously take their wife’s for granted until one day she comes to the point where she has had enough and decides to move on with her life, divorce gets filed and this so called husband all of a sudden wants to work things out, making false promises to her. Yet, every time she wanted to discuss issues with him in order to make the marriage work while they were married, it fell to deaf ears and she was only ignored.

What these people don’t understand is, if you don’t appreciate someone’s presence in your life, their absences will one day teach to appreciate them!


You’ve noticed a change huh? She doesn’t text you as often. She never calls you anymore. When she does text you, she never says sweet things to you anymore. She takes her time texting you back. When you try and start an argument you can tell she really doesn’t care. She makes you feel pathetic. Guys post on her wall and she actually replies now. You notice that she moving on, talking to other guys and going on dates and now, all of a sudden, you’re starting to realise how beautiful she really is. She is amazing isn’t she? Well too bad because you lost her. There was a time when you were her world, her everything. She really wanted you, but you pushed her aside. You failed to realise that unlike the rest, she wasn’t afraid to walk away. She was strong enough to let go and now, suddenly, you love her? Do you even know how much pain you caused her? A lot! So don’t come around with your “I missed you” stuff because it won’t make a difference to her now, she moved on and in a better place in life.

Until next time, ma’salaama (peace!)

To Raise better kids, say no…..


Salaam mommas and friends,

How y’all doing? Well and blessed I hope 😄

I came across this wonderful article today and thought it’s worth the share. Sharing is caring lovelies lol 🙈 But seriously though, it makes great points on raising independent children. No-body wants to raise kids who grow up spoilt and think they are entitled to everything in life right? So do read y’all, trust me it will be worth it!

[ It turns out that saying no pays off far beyond avoiding raising spoiled kids. When we always yield to our children’s wants, we rob them of the opportunity to find solutions by adapting what they already have. Kids who learn from denial realize at an early age that they won’t always have the perfect tool for every job. They might not know something, have something, or be something. But that’s not the end of pursuing goals — it’s the beginning of activating their resourcefulness to find another way.]

Read full article here.


Salaam mommas,

How y’all doing? Well and blessed I hope 😀

Today I just wanted to share 3 quotes on the blessings of motherhood with you. Being a mother definitely ain’t easy but it sure is rewarding!


“[Motherhood is] the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary—it’s an act of infinite optimism.” – Gilda Radner

“Motherhood: All love begins and ends there.” – Robert Browning

“Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.” – Maria Shriver

Until next time mommas, ma’salaama (peace) 😀

11 Proven Health Benefits of Ginger..


Salaam mommas,

How y’all doing? Well and blessed I hope 😀

I promised myself to make a post on this like agessss ago but y’all know I got kids right? I also had plans to post once a day, but honestly….at the end of the day and after a looooong tiring day at work + mummy duties…..I only have 5% energy left to get myself to bed and, no jokes y’all, by the time my head hits the pillow I’m already in a deep sleep like….


Getting back to the benefits of ginger, ginger is like my go to home  remedy during the cold and flu season. I use it in my tea everyday and also blend it with my homemade fruit smoothes. I also use it to make my monthly detox juice with lime, turmeric and honey which has worked wonders for my overall health (I will put the recipe for this below if you are interested to try it).

Here is the 11 proven health benefits of Organic ginger (credit:

1. Ginger Contains Gingerol, a Substance With Powerful Medicinal Properties

Ginger is a flowering plant that originated from China.

It belongs to the Zingiberaceae family, and is closely related to turmeric, cardomon and galangal.

The rhizome (underground part of the stem) is the part commonly used as a spice. It is often called ginger root, or simply ginger.

Ginger has a very long history of use in various forms of traditional/alternative medicine. It has been used to help digestion, reduce nausea and help fight the flu and common cold, to name a few.

The unique fragrance and flavor of ginger come from its natural oils, the most important of which is gingerol.

Gingerol is the main bioactive compound in ginger, responsible for much of its medicinal properties. It has powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant effects.

Read more here.




  • 3 cups boiling water
  • 1 organic lime cut into slices
  • 1 inch piece of fresh ginger, peeled and sliced
  • 1/8 teaspoon ground organic turmeric
  • 2 teaspoons organic honey


  1. Bring the water to a boil.
  2. Turn the stove off and add the lime, ginger and turmeric.
  3. Let it set for 25 minutes.
  4. Strain and drink at room temperature or reheat, just reheat, don’t bring it to boil.


Until next time mommas, ma’salaama 😀


Learn to love yourself…..


Salaam mommas,

How y’all doing? Well and blessed I hope.

Today I wanted to discuss the importance of self-love, especially as single mothers! Being new to this whole single-motherhood thingy….honestly y’all, I don’t know what to call it yet so ‘thingy’ will just have to do for now lol!…I’m starting to realise how I have lost myself 😦 Lost myself amongst the chaos of work, motherly duties and being a wife to my now ex-husband.

I hardly had time for myself! Being a single mother now, I have realised in order to be able to fulfil my responsibilities as a mother, I needed to be a little selfish sometimes and do things to take care of myself whether it is going to the spa with my girls, hanging out with them, nail-salon or just taking myself out for lunch (I like to call it lunch date with me, myself and I haha). Let me tell y’all that I’m absolutely loving it, I’m starting to rediscover myself again.

I think what we tend to forget as mothers is in order to be there for our children, we need to learn to love ourselves and take care of ourselves both mentally and physically first. Not doing that will just have us end up feeling miserable, over-exhausted and worn out both physically and mentally which could eventually have us not being able to fulfil our duties 100%. You could end up falling in to depression, start having anxiety issues…etc mommas and believe me y’all, it ain’t pleasant having any of these while having little children depending on you for everything!

And last but not least mommas, I have also realised that as single mothers, we tend to worry ourselves silly about the littlest of’s crazy. I kinda just learnt to tell myself “life happens man, just breath through it”. No matter what situation you find yourself in, Allah set (God) will show you a way out of it so learn to just breath through it mommas!


Until next time mommas, ma’salaama 😀


Raising Confident and Competent Children….


Salaam Mommas,

How y’all doing? Well and blessed I hope.

Lately I have been hearing more and more stories, stories of what’s happening in our community. Stories of, for example, how children as young as 12 are landing up in trouble with the law. I can’t help but ask myself how is that even possible? I started looking at how we, as somali parents, handled our children and I came to the realisation that our children are left to handle themselves. We are too busy with the happenings in our community, be it weddings, get togethers, gossips of what’s happened to so and so…etc, to even have the time to sit down with our children in order to know what’s happening with them, at school, with their friends and how they are coping with life in general. We have this believe that so long as they are fed, clothed and have a roof above them, they are fine and don’t need anything else.

Let me tell you something mommas, having those 3 things in life is not enough! Yes, it’s a fundamental part of life but not enough. Children need more than that from us parents and the most important of it all is our time, attention and love. Till the time they are adults and can make their own decisions, children need our guidance as well. When children don’t have parents taking their responsibility seriously and teaching their children right from wrong, keeping a watchful eye on them, guiding them and keeping them busy with other extra after school activities in order for them to use up their energy…the children will eventually find other ways to burn this energy, hence how they end up getting into trouble with the law!

Why don’t we, as mothers, spend all these times, energy and money we are wasting on these weddings, get togethers…etc, on our children? Trust me, the benefits will be far greater for both you and children! I mean, it will keep them out of trouble for sure and what could be better than that right?

Other thing I have noticed is our children lack confidence and self-esteem, which I honestly blame on the lack of guidance and involvement from the parents side. We, as parents, need to work with our children in order for them to develop well both mentally and physically from an early age. Click here to read this wonderful article on 12 ways to boost your child/rens self-esteem and confidence, this website has amazing articles on parenting from newborns to those teenage years. All worth the read mommas! At the end of the day mommas, no matter what, our children’s well being should always come first! They are the future leaders of our nation and we should help them towards becoming responsible adults who will contribute to the betterment of our society rather than become a burden and nuisance to society!

Until next time mommas, ma’salaama 🙂